Married December 19, 2010
Tanya (40) from San Francisco, CA & Richard (33) from Israel
Match #: 1747&1748
I have been looking for my B'Shert for about 20 years. Unfortunately, I was a bit unfocused and strayed from my faith in G*d for many of those years.
Fortunately I found my way back to faith in G*d and wanted to met a man that shared my values and faith. I even went to Israel this last February to visit Jerusalem. Praying at the Kotel to find my B'Shert and to have a family soon. Sticking my prayer written on a piece of paper between the cracks, I asked G*d to help me in my search.
Fortunately, my prayers were quickly answered.
We met on JWed in March 2010. I live in San Francisco and Richard lived in Los Angeles.
I came to LA to visit some friends and go on a date with Richard ( April 18th, 2010). Boy, am I glad I made the trip and thought outside my immediate area. We hit it off and wanted to see each other again. Unfortunately, we lived 350 miles away from each other and this would be a bit of work.
B"H, Once I came back up to SF, I got a call from an NBC producer. They were auditioning chefs ( I am a chef and own a Kosher catering business) for a show with Bobby Flay (airing March 16, 2011) and wanted to know if I was interested. The only thing is that if I got the show, I would HAVE to move to LA for at least 6 weeks. Needless to say, I told them I was interested. Auditioned for the show and got it.
A friend had a room for sublet in the West Hollywood Hills for 2 months. Moving to LA for 2 months gave Richard and I a chance to get to know each other better and allow me to shoot a TV show. An opportunity for two great things!
Richard and I dated and got to know more about each other. The more we got to know, the more we want to know and liked each other.
2 months passed quickly. Soon, I had to travel back to SF.
Richard spent a few weekends up in SF and I introduced him to my Shul and my "world."
In September, he asked me to marry him. I was overjoyed and accepted my beautiful diamond ring he gave me. He moved up to SF and was able to transfer within his company.
We were married on December 19th of 2010. 8 Months and 1 day since the day we met. Our wedding was magical and full of love. Of course, I catered my own wedding. Our menu was the first Shabbat dinner I ever cooked for Richard. The menu for our wedding was my own chef love letter to my husband.
He is 43 and I am 40. Like Richard, I have wanted to find my B'Shert for many years. I am SOOOOO glad I took a leap and looked in LA for someone. If I had never reached out to e-mail him, I probably would have never met him. We are both so grateful that we both found each other thanks to Jwed!
If I could give advice to Jewish women in their 35+ to early 40s that still want to have a family but are coming close to being "too old", it would be to broaden your search to other areas and INVEST in the time it takes to find and then build a relationship.
It was at some financial loss for me to take 2 months off of my business and move to LA. The show paid me pennies and I missed out on income while there. But the investment in my relationship was the most important investment I have made in years.
We as "modern women" are taught to focus on ourselves and our careers. What do you do if your B'Shert doesn't fall into your lap and you would like to have a family? One has to make unselfish commitments and a leap of faith to "have it all." I have found that just like your education and career, a woman has to invest time and sometimes money in finding her B'Shert. Have faith in HaShem that he will bring you someone IF you pray and keep focused on what you want.
Richard was worth EVERY bit of my wait and effort. We are very happy together! Our Shul-community and families are overjoyed that we are married and wanting to start a family ASAP.
We will keep JWed posted on any other up coming Simchas!!
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