I am so happy and feel so blessed that I will get to share my life with him!
Match #: 1165&1166
I joined JWed in its early days – probably early 2002.
Since I live in a community without a large number of singles, I looked at JWed as a valuable tool to meet potential dates from other cities, along with being set up by shadchanim and attending singles events. I would log-in frequently and search for potential matches. When I found a profile that interested me, sometimes I would gather the courage to send a friendly message, and occasionally that led to phone calls, and on a few occasions, a date or two.Still, it was never easy for me to be the one to “make the first move.” A couple of years ago, I noticed a new profile for a guy who lived in a city just a couple hours’ drive from me. In his photo, he was not only good-looking, but also came across as an especially nice person. I wasn’t sure from his personal description, though, if we were a good match hashkafically. I returned to his profile several times, and thought about contacting him, but eventually decided against it, thinking that he would not be interested in me.
And then, in January of 2008, a friend of mine emailed me to say that she had a shidduch for me. She described Jonathan and told me his name, which sounded very familiar. After thinking about it for a few moments, I realized , “Oh, he’s that good-looking guy from JWed!” (Jonathan had used his full name for his JWed screen name, but had since moved to another community.)
I immediately agreed to go out with him.
In spite of my initial interest, I was still concerned that we were in different places hashkafically. After our first phone conversation I still had my doubts.
In spite of that, our first date on February 17 was very pleasant. I was impressed that he was very considerate of me and was genuinely interested in getting to know me better. We had each driven a couple of hours to meet halfway on a Sunday, but because of work obligations, our first date only lasted about an hour and a half, and as it came to a close, I felt that there was still a lot I wanted to find out about Jonathan. I didn’t think he seemed interested in me, so I was taken aback when he said, “This was really nice. We should do this again.”
I was so surprised and flattered I said yes. But I still thought that things would never work out between us because of our divergent views on certain issues.
We had planned to meet halfway the following Sunday for another date, in part because Jonathan was working on assignment away from the community where he lives. But that Thursday, he called me to say that he was completing the assignment and his company was sending him home before Shabbos. He said if I were willing to come for a whole weekend, he would pay for me to fly there. In spite of being the type of person who arranges her Shabbos plans by Tuesday afternoon, I decided to do something on the spur of the moment. I booked a ticket to travel the next day.
Getting there turned into a day-long ordeal with delayed flights, an arrival right before Shabbos and no time to wait for my checked bag. I got to my host home right at shkiah, with no time to shower and none of my own clothes to wear for Shabbos. (My host, who was also our shadchan, graciously loaned me lovely clothes.) My nerves were frayed, and I felt disheveled, but I decided that if Jonathan liked me as I was that day, then he would be worth getting to know better.
During my travels earlier in the day, we had spoken on the phone several times, and Jonathan had thanked me profusely for enduring all the complications to come see him. He made me feel very appreciated and very welcome.
In spite of feeling yucky from traveling and awkward in someone else’s clothes, Jonathan complimented me on my appearance and put me at ease. It was impossible not to like him more and more.
As we got to know each other better, we talked about my concerns about our hashkafic differences, and I realized that, although we did not see eye-to-eye on every issue, we really had similar points of view on many matters.
By the end of that weekend, I knew that our relationship had real potential, and just two months after our first date, we got engaged.
Although JWed was not the main force that brought us together, it certainly played an important role. Even though I did not contact him myself, seeing Jonathan’s profile and photo made a strong impression that made me much more open to meeting him than I might have been if it were truly a “blind” date. We are planning to get married on July 6, 2008, G-d willing, and I am so happy and feel so blessed that I will get to share my life with him.
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