When you come across your bashert, trust me, you WILL know!

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On December 9, 2007, I sent a JWed e‑mail to a member from Manhattan, whose profile caught my eye, but hadn’t received any immediate response.

On the night of December 10, 2007, while teaching a class at Finger Lakes Community College, I gave my class a fifteen minute break, and headed to my office. JWed had just introduced a new IM feature and, lo and behold, I saw that member online! I immediately fired off an IM, and she replied. We agreed to continue chatting when I got home, later that night.

We moved our conversation to AIM, and chatted online for the next few days. Finally, on Thursday, December 13, 2007, at 9 pm, we had our first phone conversation. Right from the get-go, sparks were everywhere! The last thing we remember about that conversation, was that at 4:30 am, we both fell asleep on the phone. There wasn’t a single lull in the conversation, at any point. Our very first phone conversation had lasted seven and a half hours!


I live in Rochester, NY. For holidays and breaks, I fly into New York City, and stay with my parents in Staten Island. My next scheduled visit into New York City was at the conclusion of the semester, the following week.

We were basically on the phone, at all possible times, until then. The more we talked, the more we wanted to talk. Without meeting face to face, we felt like we had known each other our whole lives!

We finally came face-to-face on Sunday, December 23, 2007 for our first date. I picked her up from her apartment on the Upper West Side, and headed to La Creperie, for brunch. After chillin at Starbucks for a while, I drove her to my parents’ home in Staten Island (the ‘rents were in Florida), and cooked us a taco dinner.

For the next four months, we were frequent fliers, to say the least. Only two Shabbosim went by, that we weren’t together for. She did most of the flying, from New York City to Rochester. Her usual trip was from Thursday night through Monday morning. We also spent Shabbosim in Staten Island with my parents, and Huntingdon Valley, Pennsylvania, with her parents.

Our feelings of love had been getting more and more intense each day!

On April 17, 2008, I picked her up from her apartment on 96th Street in Manhattan, en route to my parents' home in Staten Island. We were spending the first days of Pesach there.

When we got on the Henry Hudson Parkway, I pretended to think there was a possible flat tire. I got off at the first exit, 79th Street. Then, I looked at all 4 tires, but didn't "find anything" yet. I told her, "I don't want to get back on the highway. Let's try the local streets for a bit, just in case there is a flat."

When we got to 48th and Broadway, I once again said, "I think we've got a flat!" During all of this, I was pretending to be very upset, and she was buying it!!!!

I got out of the car, and then announced, "Dear! We have a flat!" When she came out of the car, at 8:05 pm, I was kneeling by the passenger side rear wheel. I said, "Look! There's something shiny in the tire!"

At that point, I pulled out the ring, and she said YES!!!!!!!! :)

We are planning to get married, IYH, on March 15, 2009, somewhere in New Jersey.

 The interesting twist to this story is that she never replied to any of her JWed e-mails, mine included! If JWed didn’t offer the new IM feature, it would have taken me even longer to find my bashert!

Let me tell you this... We knew, beyond a shadow of a doubt, right from the very start, that we were meant for each other. When you come across your bashert, trust me, you WILL know!

When you come across your bashert, trust me, you WILL know!

On December 9, 2007, I sent a JWed e‑mail to a member from Manhattan, whose profile caught my eye, but hadn’t received any immediate response.

On the night of December 10, 2007, while teaching a class at Finger Lakes Community College, I gave my class a fifteen minute break, and headed to my office. JWed had just introduced a new IM feature and, lo and behold, I saw that member online! I immediately fired off an IM, and she replied. We agreed to continue chatting when I got home, later that night.

We moved our conversation to AIM, and chatted online for the next few days. Finally, on Thursday, December 13, 2007, at 9 pm, we had our first phone conversation. Right from the get-go, sparks were everywhere! The last thing we remember about that conversation, was that at 4:30 am, we both fell asleep on the phone. There wasn’t a single lull in the conversation, at any point. Our very first phone conversation had lasted seven and a half hours!


I live in Rochester, NY. For holidays and breaks, I fly into New York City, and stay with my parents in Staten Island. My next scheduled visit into New York City was at the conclusion of the semester, the following week.

We were basically on the phone, at all possible times, until then. The more we talked, the more we wanted to talk. Without meeting face to face, we felt like we had known each other our whole lives!

We finally came face-to-face on Sunday, December 23, 2007 for our first date. I picked her up from her apartment on the Upper West Side, and headed to La Creperie, for brunch. After chillin at Starbucks for a while, I drove her to my parents’ home in Staten Island (the ‘rents were in Florida), and cooked us a taco dinner.

For the next four months, we were frequent fliers, to say the least. Only two Shabbosim went by, that we weren’t together for. She did most of the flying, from New York City to Rochester. Her usual trip was from Thursday night through Monday morning. We also spent Shabbosim in Staten Island with my parents, and Huntingdon Valley, Pennsylvania, with her parents.

Our feelings of love had been getting more and more intense each day!

On April 17, 2008, I picked her up from her apartment on 96th Street in Manhattan, en route to my parents' home in Staten Island. We were spending the first days of Pesach there.

When we got on the Henry Hudson Parkway, I pretended to think there was a possible flat tire. I got off at the first exit, 79th Street. Then, I looked at all 4 tires, but didn't "find anything" yet. I told her, "I don't want to get back on the highway. Let's try the local streets for a bit, just in case there is a flat."

When we got to 48th and Broadway, I once again said, "I think we've got a flat!" During all of this, I was pretending to be very upset, and she was buying it!!!!

I got out of the car, and then announced, "Dear! We have a flat!" When she came out of the car, at 8:05 pm, I was kneeling by the passenger side rear wheel. I said, "Look! There's something shiny in the tire!"

At that point, I pulled out the ring, and she said YES!!!!!!!! :)

We are planning to get married, IYH, on March 15, 2009, somewhere in New Jersey.

 The interesting twist to this story is that she never replied to any of her JWed e-mails, mine included! If JWed didn’t offer the new IM feature, it would have taken me even longer to find my bashert!

Let me tell you this... We knew, beyond a shadow of a doubt, right from the very start, that we were meant for each other. When you come across your bashert, trust me, you WILL know!

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