I was drawn to a kind face and his name 'Happy Man'...
Match #: 775&776
I had been looking for a Shidduch through the Internet for one year. On September 11th I came home from work and was in a hurry since I had to get ready for a wedding that night. I decided to take a quick look into the Internet and was surprised to find someone was chasing after me!
When I came home after the Chuppah and I read her profile properly I wrote back to see what the outcome would be since she was living in Israel and I was in Australia.
At that time I was very keenly looking for someone in Australia as it would be easier for me. We wrote to each other every day for two months. Finally, around November time I went to Israel for 13 days and I saw Malka most days and other days we wrote to each other through the MSN Mobile Text Messaging. At the end of December Malka came to Australia for a visit and we got married on January 11th.
We always got on very well, our communications have always been very deep - and it has simply been just amazing! I am actually deaf with 85% hearing loss, and I have a hearing wife who has a beautiful nature.
About 2 weeks before she started to write to me I was at rock bottom and at that time she was looking at my profile. I was talking to G-d, (I am Breslov BH) expressing myself to Him and explaining all the sacrifices that I made to become religious and all that happened as a result, etc. I asked Him at that time, 'What more do you want from me, please provide me with a wife!'
Now Malka lives in Melbourne with me, she is very happy here and BH feeling very very relaxed after a difficult ordeal in Israel for 27 years.
Thank you to JWed from me and thank you to JWed for Malka who is now relaxed in sunny Melbourne and that we are together and very happily, BH.
One day flipping through the pictures of men in my age group I was drawn to a kind face and the name alongside it said 'Happy Man.'
Four days in a row I was drawn to that face and read and reread that profile. I could not help but notice a sense of contentment and acceptance of his situation, and that his profile only spoke of what he wanted to offer to his mate but not at all of what he was asking for for himself. I couldn't help but think, 'what a selfless individual, and deaf to boot? I simply had to write to him, I simply had to find out if he was really so humble.
All I wrote was that I was interested in his profile and asked that he look at mine, I signed my cover name and my number.
I was shocked when he wrote back!
From there started two months of honest and open correspondence with a humble G-d fearing man. Everything that I stated that I was looking for in my profile I had found in his correspondence.
When David came to Israel in November I liked him immediately. Two hours after sitting and chatting with him I knew I would marry him if he asked. David told me that he considers himself lucky to be deaf, he doesn't hear the static, the radio, the Loshon Hora, he talks to G-d at work, he Davens and learns without disruption; whether in Shule or on the Tram... I felt I had found a treasure trove.
Having one daughter in my custody and the thought of leaving my other children behind in Israel was a heavy decision. The decision was supported by my other children who 'only want to see me happy'. Unfortunately, because of circumstances beyond my control I saw that making a new start in a new place would actually be the best thing for us. My friends in Israel pointed this out to me and heavily supported the decision to move to Australia due to the nature of my circumstances in Israel.
They were ecstatic for me and by these turn of events. My Rav, a closet Zionist, did not tell me to stay in Israel and the unanimous support was amazing in itself, I saw this as a heavenly sign and today David and I are very, very happy and we maintain amazing communication, we're best friends.
He has such integrity and I respect him immensely. We are so grateful to JWed for being Hashem's Shaliach in this world. David and I want to send a message to others not to give up, we both worked very very hard - individually after our respective divorces', to be happy and serve Hashem with Simcha. Look for and find the Divine Intervention in your life, always look how Hashem is taking care of you. We both had very bad experiences but now we see the growth and we appreciate each other much more and have learned from our mistakes from the past.
This too is part of the suffering, we must accept it with love. We can't always see Hashem's gifts, but if we want to we can see that we have grown and this infact is what Hashem really wants.
Malka and David were married January 11th 2007.
Malka and David were married January 11th 2007.
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