I used to think that JWed was 'too religious' for me...

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Like many single Jews in LA, I was finding it difficult to meet that all-around great Jewish guy who would complement me intellectually, religiously, and socially.  I had tried other Jewish dating websites, and the whole getting-set-up-process, - but I still had not found Mr. Right.  I used to think that JWed was 'too religious' for me, but after looking through some profiles I noticed that there was some variety in the types of people who join.  Plus, it was becoming increasingly important for me to find someone who was very strong in their Jewish faith and growing in their observance, as was I.  So I joined.
I emailed with a few guys and went on a date with one, but I wasn't having too much luck.  So I stopped my membership.  But I would continue to search for new guys to see if anyone would interest me.  In April 2005 I saw Allen's profile, and after reading it I thought that he definitely had potential.  He seemed like a really well-rounded person with similar values to mine, and his picture was pretty cute.  I also thought it would be interesting for a Persian girl like myself to go out with a Russian guy since I always loved diversity.  I considered becoming a member again so that I could email him, but decided to hold off for the time being.  The very next day, however, I got an email from him, so I paid the membership fee in hopes that I could meet someone worthwhile.
It was before Pesach when we first started communicating, and since he lived in Orange County we decided to wait until after the holiday to go out.  In the meantime we would email each other and chat online.  A great quality I noticed right away was that he could make me laugh, even over the computer and without ever having met him!  We learned that we had a lot in common and were in relatively the same stage of growth religiously.  Our first date was on May 15, 2005 where we first met up for smoothies and then went to a big Yom Ha'Atzmaut festival at the park.  We both had a good time, but neither of us really felt any sparks.  But we continued to stay in touch and had our second date at a Lag B'Omer bonfire at the beach.  He brought his guitar and everyone enjoyed him leading the songs, and by the end of that night I felt he was starting to grow on me.
The following Sunday I actually flew to Israel for a four-week women's learning program in Jerusalem.  While there I thought a lot about what kind of man I want to marry and whether I thought Allen had the qualities I was looking for.  We emailed a few times and our discussions involved some heavy topics.  By the end of my trip, although I was very sad to be leaving Israel and the amazing experience I had there, I was looking forward to seeing my friends and family again, and I was very excited to go on another date with Allen.
Our next date upon my return was in Orange County, and we spoke about a lot of serious topics.  I still wasn't quite sure if he was the guy for me and felt I needed some more time to think about whether I wanted to continue dating him.  Over 4th of July weekend he went on a trip to the east coast while I went on a camping trip with my friends.  During my trip I confided my feelings to a few of my close friends and tried to imagine what it would be like with Allen there.  Maybe it was being out in nature that helped clear my thoughts, but by the end of that weekend I decided that it would be worth it to continue to see where things could go between us.  So after that weekend we arranged for date #4, and it was that date, on July 10, 2005, that marked our 'official' beginning as a couple.
Our relationship had a very smooth and natural progression, and the more I learned about him the more I saw what a caring, giving, funny, outgoing, and loyal person he was.  What was great was that our feelings for each other almost progressed in unison, and we would both be ready at the same time to take the next steps in our relationship.
So on February 10, 2006, on our 'seven month anniversary', after much sneaking around and plotting with my sister on his part, he proposed, and of course I said yes.  We are both very excited and grateful to Hashem to have the rest of our lives to spend together, and we hope everyone will be blessed with finding their basherts at the right time.

Susan and Allen were married on October 22, 2006, Rosh Chodesh Cheshvan

I used to think that JWed was 'too religious' for me...

Like many single Jews in LA, I was finding it difficult to meet that all-around great Jewish guy who would complement me intellectually, religiously, and socially.  I had tried other Jewish dating websites, and the whole getting-set-up-process, - but I still had not found Mr. Right.  I used to think that JWed was 'too religious' for me, but after looking through some profiles I noticed that there was some variety in the types of people who join.  Plus, it was becoming increasingly important for me to find someone who was very strong in their Jewish faith and growing in their observance, as was I.  So I joined.
I emailed with a few guys and went on a date with one, but I wasn't having too much luck.  So I stopped my membership.  But I would continue to search for new guys to see if anyone would interest me.  In April 2005 I saw Allen's profile, and after reading it I thought that he definitely had potential.  He seemed like a really well-rounded person with similar values to mine, and his picture was pretty cute.  I also thought it would be interesting for a Persian girl like myself to go out with a Russian guy since I always loved diversity.  I considered becoming a member again so that I could email him, but decided to hold off for the time being.  The very next day, however, I got an email from him, so I paid the membership fee in hopes that I could meet someone worthwhile.
It was before Pesach when we first started communicating, and since he lived in Orange County we decided to wait until after the holiday to go out.  In the meantime we would email each other and chat online.  A great quality I noticed right away was that he could make me laugh, even over the computer and without ever having met him!  We learned that we had a lot in common and were in relatively the same stage of growth religiously.  Our first date was on May 15, 2005 where we first met up for smoothies and then went to a big Yom Ha'Atzmaut festival at the park.  We both had a good time, but neither of us really felt any sparks.  But we continued to stay in touch and had our second date at a Lag B'Omer bonfire at the beach.  He brought his guitar and everyone enjoyed him leading the songs, and by the end of that night I felt he was starting to grow on me.
The following Sunday I actually flew to Israel for a four-week women's learning program in Jerusalem.  While there I thought a lot about what kind of man I want to marry and whether I thought Allen had the qualities I was looking for.  We emailed a few times and our discussions involved some heavy topics.  By the end of my trip, although I was very sad to be leaving Israel and the amazing experience I had there, I was looking forward to seeing my friends and family again, and I was very excited to go on another date with Allen.
Our next date upon my return was in Orange County, and we spoke about a lot of serious topics.  I still wasn't quite sure if he was the guy for me and felt I needed some more time to think about whether I wanted to continue dating him.  Over 4th of July weekend he went on a trip to the east coast while I went on a camping trip with my friends.  During my trip I confided my feelings to a few of my close friends and tried to imagine what it would be like with Allen there.  Maybe it was being out in nature that helped clear my thoughts, but by the end of that weekend I decided that it would be worth it to continue to see where things could go between us.  So after that weekend we arranged for date #4, and it was that date, on July 10, 2005, that marked our 'official' beginning as a couple.
Our relationship had a very smooth and natural progression, and the more I learned about him the more I saw what a caring, giving, funny, outgoing, and loyal person he was.  What was great was that our feelings for each other almost progressed in unison, and we would both be ready at the same time to take the next steps in our relationship.
So on February 10, 2006, on our 'seven month anniversary', after much sneaking around and plotting with my sister on his part, he proposed, and of course I said yes.  We are both very excited and grateful to Hashem to have the rest of our lives to spend together, and we hope everyone will be blessed with finding their basherts at the right time.

Susan and Allen were married on October 22, 2006, Rosh Chodesh Cheshvan

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