Yona & Daniel

Match #: 323&324

Daniel’s perspective:
Almost 3 years ago, I moved from Israel to Japan to study Mathematical Physics here. I knew that I would be in Japan for a long time, and I knew that there are virtually no Jews living here, so I tried to go on as many shidduchim as possible when I was still in Israel, but nothing worked out.
In Japan, JWed was basically my only shidduch option, and my idea was to find a frum single somewhere in the world, and if things looked promising enough to fly out to meet her.
Yona Chava (Yuuko), a Japanese giyoret who was living in Jerusalem, was having little luck finding her Beshert, and her flatmate talked her into joining JWed. The first action they did upon signing up, just for fun, was to search for singles in Japan.
I was the only name which popped up, and Yuuko found my profile interesting!
She told a Japanese friend of hers about me, and her friend knew me (since I know most of the tiny Japanese community of Jerusalem) and said that I was OK, and so she decided to write to me right away, a few hours after having joined the site. We hit it off very quickly over the internet, and when she came back a few weeks later for what was to be a brief visit to Japan to see her parents, it became obvious quite quickly that... Bingo, this was it.

Yeshuat Hashem keheref ayin, indeed.


One thing that made it all very easy is that we have basically the same friends, so we could reference-check each other very easily.Indeed, it is surprising that we had not met previously- and very lucky, because we met in the right kind of context, when we were both available and both searching for the same thing.
Things moved very quickly- when it works it works. By the second meeting we both knew that this would work, and by the third time we were already 'unofficially' engaged, although the vort and the official shidduch was only on Sunday (the day before yesterday). We have known each other for a little over a month.
We are getting married Beezrat Hashem in the Beit Chabad in Tokyo on the 14th of Shvat, in what may be the first Jewish wedding in Japan since the Second World War (so 100% intermarriage becomes 99.xx% intermarriage in this country, which improves the statistics somewhat).

This is truly a miracle- finding a shidduch in Japan isn't 1 in a million, it's 1 in 126 million- and it shows that one should never give up hope. However many times things don't work, however long one waits, in a single instant one can open one's e-mail, and 'rumster Member xxxx has left a message for you' and the search is over. One must keep trying, never give up hope, and remain prepared always for the moment that Hashem decides to link us up with somebody with whom it can work. Because if Hashem can bring a Jewish couple together in Japan, he can do so anywhere...
Yona’s perspective:

After having had hard time in Israel as a convert and an Asian girl, I decided to visit and stay for a while in Japan where I was grown up for the first time after converted to Judaism. At that time, some of my friends offered me some Shiduchim but it was't good time for me to meet any of them because I missed my family and friends in Japan.
When I told my friends that I would come back to Japan for a while, some of them suggested me to put my profile up on the internet Shiduch sites. There were some sites, they told me. Because I would leave Israel, one of my friends told me that 'JWed' would be the best for me as it is world wide and people must be frum enough for me. But I wasn't so interested in putting up my profile up and a few weeks passed!
One day, I had a supper with my friends and talked about the internet Shiduch sites. It was a very casual talk about Shiduch but without any specific reason, suddenly I felt like putting my profile up. Anyway, I felt I had nothing to lose – so I decided to post my details.
As soon as I came back my flat, I sat down in front of my computer and started writing about myself. It took me just half an hour to do it. Then I said to my flatmate, a very good friend, ‘Finally I did it!’. She was happy for me and then she suggested me to search guys in Japan. Actually it was she that sat down on my chair and searched any guys in Japan with my computer!
Only one guy turned up on the screen!


His profile was okay with me but honestly I hesitated to write to him. It was a little bit scary for me to write to somebody whom I didn't know at all. So I didn't it that night.
The following day, I called my Japanese Jewish friend to talk about what I had found on the site. I described him as far as I remember. What a small world we live in! She had had a Shiduch with him half an year ago.

She had talked with him on the phone. ‘How does he sound like?’ I asked her. ‘He sounded like a kind of pure guy, I think he is okay!’ What do I lose by writing to him? That day, I sent a message to him. It was just a few days before leaving Israel.
He returned a pretty good response and we decided to meet in Kyoto where he lives and studies. When I first saw him, I didn't know why but I could 'find' him amongst a lot of non-Japanese in Kyoto though he looked quite different from his picture on the web.
He looked pretty cuter than I had expected!
We went to a botanical garden and started talking. He speaks fluent Japanese though his majoring is not Japanese and we found that we had a lot of joint friends and acquaintances in common, which made me feeling safe and relaxed. We spent over 10 hours together that day.
I felt we clicked, or I can say I felt he was my Bashert with one day with him! I wanted to meet him again and that night I couldn't sleep as I was so looking forward to seeing him again!
On the second date, I brought my Orthodox conversion document! I asked Daniel if his family would be concerned with him possibly marrying a convert. Because I was already so taken to him, I was afraid of what might happen in future. Daniel was definitive – and said that if marrying a convert was an issue – he would not have begun dating me in the fits place! Then I didn't see any problem with marrying him. I had made up my mind!
On the third date, he started talking about ‘our’ marriage. I was very very happy to know that he also thought about it like me. We made up our mind on that day though we waited another month to tell anybody about our decision lest they should think we were crazy!


Yona and Daniel, JWed Match #162, were married 14th of Shvat 5765, 24th January 2005.



Yona & Daniel

Daniel’s perspective:
Almost 3 years ago, I moved from Israel to Japan to study Mathematical Physics here. I knew that I would be in Japan for a long time, and I knew that there are virtually no Jews living here, so I tried to go on as many shidduchim as possible when I was still in Israel, but nothing worked out.
In Japan, JWed was basically my only shidduch option, and my idea was to find a frum single somewhere in the world, and if things looked promising enough to fly out to meet her.
Yona Chava (Yuuko), a Japanese giyoret who was living in Jerusalem, was having little luck finding her Beshert, and her flatmate talked her into joining JWed. The first action they did upon signing up, just for fun, was to search for singles in Japan.
I was the only name which popped up, and Yuuko found my profile interesting!
She told a Japanese friend of hers about me, and her friend knew me (since I know most of the tiny Japanese community of Jerusalem) and said that I was OK, and so she decided to write to me right away, a few hours after having joined the site. We hit it off very quickly over the internet, and when she came back a few weeks later for what was to be a brief visit to Japan to see her parents, it became obvious quite quickly that... Bingo, this was it.

Yeshuat Hashem keheref ayin, indeed.


One thing that made it all very easy is that we have basically the same friends, so we could reference-check each other very easily.Indeed, it is surprising that we had not met previously- and very lucky, because we met in the right kind of context, when we were both available and both searching for the same thing.
Things moved very quickly- when it works it works. By the second meeting we both knew that this would work, and by the third time we were already 'unofficially' engaged, although the vort and the official shidduch was only on Sunday (the day before yesterday). We have known each other for a little over a month.
We are getting married Beezrat Hashem in the Beit Chabad in Tokyo on the 14th of Shvat, in what may be the first Jewish wedding in Japan since the Second World War (so 100% intermarriage becomes 99.xx% intermarriage in this country, which improves the statistics somewhat).

This is truly a miracle- finding a shidduch in Japan isn't 1 in a million, it's 1 in 126 million- and it shows that one should never give up hope. However many times things don't work, however long one waits, in a single instant one can open one's e-mail, and 'rumster Member xxxx has left a message for you' and the search is over. One must keep trying, never give up hope, and remain prepared always for the moment that Hashem decides to link us up with somebody with whom it can work. Because if Hashem can bring a Jewish couple together in Japan, he can do so anywhere...
Yona’s perspective:

After having had hard time in Israel as a convert and an Asian girl, I decided to visit and stay for a while in Japan where I was grown up for the first time after converted to Judaism. At that time, some of my friends offered me some Shiduchim but it was't good time for me to meet any of them because I missed my family and friends in Japan.
When I told my friends that I would come back to Japan for a while, some of them suggested me to put my profile up on the internet Shiduch sites. There were some sites, they told me. Because I would leave Israel, one of my friends told me that 'JWed' would be the best for me as it is world wide and people must be frum enough for me. But I wasn't so interested in putting up my profile up and a few weeks passed!
One day, I had a supper with my friends and talked about the internet Shiduch sites. It was a very casual talk about Shiduch but without any specific reason, suddenly I felt like putting my profile up. Anyway, I felt I had nothing to lose – so I decided to post my details.
As soon as I came back my flat, I sat down in front of my computer and started writing about myself. It took me just half an hour to do it. Then I said to my flatmate, a very good friend, ‘Finally I did it!’. She was happy for me and then she suggested me to search guys in Japan. Actually it was she that sat down on my chair and searched any guys in Japan with my computer!
Only one guy turned up on the screen!


His profile was okay with me but honestly I hesitated to write to him. It was a little bit scary for me to write to somebody whom I didn't know at all. So I didn't it that night.
The following day, I called my Japanese Jewish friend to talk about what I had found on the site. I described him as far as I remember. What a small world we live in! She had had a Shiduch with him half an year ago.

She had talked with him on the phone. ‘How does he sound like?’ I asked her. ‘He sounded like a kind of pure guy, I think he is okay!’ What do I lose by writing to him? That day, I sent a message to him. It was just a few days before leaving Israel.
He returned a pretty good response and we decided to meet in Kyoto where he lives and studies. When I first saw him, I didn't know why but I could 'find' him amongst a lot of non-Japanese in Kyoto though he looked quite different from his picture on the web.
He looked pretty cuter than I had expected!
We went to a botanical garden and started talking. He speaks fluent Japanese though his majoring is not Japanese and we found that we had a lot of joint friends and acquaintances in common, which made me feeling safe and relaxed. We spent over 10 hours together that day.
I felt we clicked, or I can say I felt he was my Bashert with one day with him! I wanted to meet him again and that night I couldn't sleep as I was so looking forward to seeing him again!
On the second date, I brought my Orthodox conversion document! I asked Daniel if his family would be concerned with him possibly marrying a convert. Because I was already so taken to him, I was afraid of what might happen in future. Daniel was definitive – and said that if marrying a convert was an issue – he would not have begun dating me in the fits place! Then I didn't see any problem with marrying him. I had made up my mind!
On the third date, he started talking about ‘our’ marriage. I was very very happy to know that he also thought about it like me. We made up our mind on that day though we waited another month to tell anybody about our decision lest they should think we were crazy!


Yona and Daniel, JWed Match #162, were married 14th of Shvat 5765, 24th January 2005.



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