Somewhat hesitantly, I put my profile on JWed...

Match #: 207&208

I was looking for a long term relationship that would lead to marriage and was not having much success. Following Rosh Hashanah, I decided I needed to put in my hishtadlut and, somewhat hesitantly, I put my profile on JWed.
A few days after Yom Kippur, I got a message from this guy who lives in the same city (and in fact in the same area) as I do. I looked at his profile and he sounded lovely and in his picture he looked warm. I liked the look of him.
We sent a few messages back and forth that day and moved very quickly onto personal e-mail and telephone (all on the same day). We decided that, before we 'chickened out', we would meet that very evening. I cancelled my plans and met him.
We went for a walk and talked. Funnily enough, we both LOVE Yom Kippur and find this the best day of the year and we talked about this for quite a while. I thought he was a lovely guy but didn't really think he was for me (nor I for him). He called me the next day and I told him. He said he was interested but if I wasn't then could we at least be friends and he asked if it was OK for him to call me from time to time. I agreed.
He called once a week or every two weeks just to see how I was and never asked me out again until some two months later when he asked if we could meet for dinner 'no pressure' and 'just as friends'. I thought 'Why not? I should never base my possible relationship with someone on just one date so why not?'. Plus he wasn't even treating this as a 'date' so I had nothing to lose. We saw each other again and we spent a solid eight hours together. This was the end of November. After that we saw each other every spare minute of every day. By mid-January, I knew that if he popped the question I would say yes although my natural caution warned me to get to know him some more, which we did.
We got engaged shortly after Pesach, and are IYH getting married on Tu Beav - a day which the Gemara compares as great a Yom Tov as our favourite day of the year - Yom Kippur!
Thank you, JWed!


Jessica and Nir, JWed Match #104, and both from the United Kingdom, were married Tu Beav 5764, August 2nd, 2004

Somewhat hesitantly, I put my profile on JWed...

I was looking for a long term relationship that would lead to marriage and was not having much success. Following Rosh Hashanah, I decided I needed to put in my hishtadlut and, somewhat hesitantly, I put my profile on JWed.
A few days after Yom Kippur, I got a message from this guy who lives in the same city (and in fact in the same area) as I do. I looked at his profile and he sounded lovely and in his picture he looked warm. I liked the look of him.
We sent a few messages back and forth that day and moved very quickly onto personal e-mail and telephone (all on the same day). We decided that, before we 'chickened out', we would meet that very evening. I cancelled my plans and met him.
We went for a walk and talked. Funnily enough, we both LOVE Yom Kippur and find this the best day of the year and we talked about this for quite a while. I thought he was a lovely guy but didn't really think he was for me (nor I for him). He called me the next day and I told him. He said he was interested but if I wasn't then could we at least be friends and he asked if it was OK for him to call me from time to time. I agreed.
He called once a week or every two weeks just to see how I was and never asked me out again until some two months later when he asked if we could meet for dinner 'no pressure' and 'just as friends'. I thought 'Why not? I should never base my possible relationship with someone on just one date so why not?'. Plus he wasn't even treating this as a 'date' so I had nothing to lose. We saw each other again and we spent a solid eight hours together. This was the end of November. After that we saw each other every spare minute of every day. By mid-January, I knew that if he popped the question I would say yes although my natural caution warned me to get to know him some more, which we did.
We got engaged shortly after Pesach, and are IYH getting married on Tu Beav - a day which the Gemara compares as great a Yom Tov as our favourite day of the year - Yom Kippur!
Thank you, JWed!


Jessica and Nir, JWed Match #104, and both from the United Kingdom, were married Tu Beav 5764, August 2nd, 2004

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