How was I supposed to date a girl so far away?!
Match #: 167&168
Meir and Miriam Lipnick, JWed Match #84, were married 9 Tamuz, June 28th, 2004 .
Miriam and I met on JWed shortly before Rosh Hashana. She contacted me, and my first thought was, 'how am I supposed to date a girl so far away?' You see Miriam lives in the Chicago area and I live in the Dallas area. But, I decided it was worth a shot. So, I contacted her back, and before I knew it we exchanged real e-mail addresses and began e-mailing each other. Shortly after the Yom Tovim, we exchanged references and phone numbers. We soon agreed to meet in person.
By early November, I was on an airplane (actually, it was three airplanes and a very long subway ride - very economical) to go see her. I stayed with some friends of hers (who are now friends of mine), and I was there for an extended weekend. We had a very nice time getting lost in downtown Chicago and eating Shabbos meals with her parents. Trust me: neither of these are recommended first date activities, but they were enjoyable nevertheless. In fact, getting lost was a great icebreaker. I flew home on Sunday and called her when I got back. I asked her for a second date, and after she agreed, I promptly collapsed in bed exhausted from what was quite an eventful few days.
Our second two meetings were in Dallas. She flew in around Thanksgiving and Hanukka. Both of these dates were a few days long also. I think that Miriam was especially impressed by the weather here, as we were able to do many outdoor activities without coats on. At the end of the third date, we sat and talked for a while before I had to take her back to the airport. I told her that I wanted to see her one more time. What I really meant was that I wanted to show up in Chicago with a ring and give her a very romantic proposal. This, however, is not what happened...
Miriam told me about this blood test given by a company called Dor Yeshorim. I'm sure that many people reading this are familiar with the Dor Yeshorim test. For those who are not, it is a blood test that checks both parties who are still dating whether or not they are carrying the same genetic disease (i.e. Taysachs) and would thus be likely to pass a fatal disease to their offspring. (For more information, call 718-384-6060.) She had already been tested her senior year in Bais Yakov, and so I needed to get the test. The problem was that there are no testing centers in Dallas. They have centers in New York (where they are located), Miami, Baltimore, and... Chicago. So, I went to Chicago one more time. At this point we knew that if we were compatible, we would get engaged. This was truly an emotional fiasco. I mean, we were halfway engaged for over two weeks. So, we were supposed to get the results back on Friday, February 20th, but that didn't happen. We were both really distressed over Shabbos. But then, davening Maariv motzi Shabbos, I suddenly realized something (here's the really clever part...) Hashem was making us wait for Adar! So, sure enough, Sunday morning, Rosh Chodesh Adar (February 22nd), we got the results, and got engaged. (Yes, I know, Over the phone, romantic, ain't it? Still, we met over electronic media and got engaged over electronic media. Truly a sign of the times.)
We had two vorts, one in Chicago and the other in Dallas. Both were very nice. I also came to Chicago to spend the first days of Pesach with her and her family. Now, we have the big wait until the wedding. We will see each other one more time over Shavuos, and then we will be married on June 28th, 2004 in Chicago. We have decided to live in Chicago for the time being. Its not very easy being 1000 miles apart from each other, but we get by with phone calls and e-mail. It will all be worth it in two more months! We would like to thank the JWed team for helping us find each other. Many more successes!
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