I decided to find my bashert on my own terms!
Match #: 163&164
A few weeks earlier a friend had asked me about an English guy (giving me all the information she knew about him) who had been suggested for her. She wanted to know if I knew him and what I knew about him, assuming, as most people do, that because we were both from England we must both know each other. I told her that I didn’t know him, but conducted some research on her behalf to find out more about him. After a couple of weeks and some phone calls to England, I reported my research findings back to my friend, who then informed me that she was currently busy, but remarked how suitable this guy sounded for me. At the time I shrugged off the mere suggestion of the match between myself and the guy I just researched for her. However, when I saw his profile at the top of my list, I knew I had to write to him.
I sent Chemmie a short e-mail, just saying hi, and asking him to take a look at my profile. The very next morning, I had a long e-mail response waiting for me in my JWed mailbox, and so began our correspondence. After three days of e-mailing back and forth, we spoke on the phone and set up our first date.
I had been looking for my Bashert for the last 5 years, and had been involved in several serious relationships. I had met and gone out with girls via various means, including Shadchanim, friends, and social functions. However, after numerous dates that were completely inappropriate and doomed to fail from their outset, I realized that if the shadchanim did not comprehend what I wanted in my bashert, how could I expect them to set me up with a girl who was appropriate for me?
I remember being with a friend while reading Yaeli's profile after she initially contacted me, and mentioning to him that I instantly felt, based on her profile, compunction to go out with her.
It was at this point that I decided to sign on and become a member of JWed. After conducting a search, I wrote to several of the girls who shared many of my interests and were of a similar frumkite level. I received replies back from some of the girls whom I wrote to, as well as from many other girls who saw my profile and wanted to make contact. I dated several lovely young ladies who were certainly more suitable for me than previously suggested shidduch dates.
So we met at 10pm on a Sunday night and went for a walk in a park. We both instantly felt a ‘click' and seemed to hit it off. I (Yaeli) came back from the date, and called a friend to ‘discuss' (as girls do), telling her that I thought I may have met the guy I was going to marry. It may have been a slightly premature prediction, but little did we know that just 5 weeks later, we would be driving up the F.D.R. at 1:00 am on the way back from Brooklyn , discussing whether we should get married! Two weeks later we ‘officially' got engaged.
Chemmie and Yaeli, JWed Match #81 were married on 5 Tammuz 5764, 24th June 2004
It all started on the third night of Chanuka, 2003. I had decided that I’d had enough of being set up with guys who weren’t right for me. The shadchanim just didn’t seem to be finding me the right type of guy, so I decided to find my bashert on my own terms. I had heard about JWed and even looked at the website a couple of times previously, and finally decided to sign up now and see what would happen. After logging in and providing a detailed profile (after all, how was the right guy supposed to find me if I didn’t try to describe my true essence?), I ran a search, entering all the pertinent information. A long list of profiles came up, and I started to look through them. I clicked on the first guy on the list and to my surprise he was originally from England (just like me) but lived about 10 minutes away from me in New Jersey. I continued to read his profile, and was even more surprised when all his information started to sound very famiiar.
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