He asked me marry him at La Marais in NY city

Chana & Natan

Match #: 51&52

When I first started using JWed, I spoke to a few different people, but nobody seemed right for me. 
When I saw Benjamin, I had recognized it from another Jewish Dating website, Jewish Cafe.  I didn't like the website at all, as there were too many non-religious people trying to contact me, so I moved onto JWed. 
I immediately remembered his picture, and something made me want to read his profile.  When I looked more closely to what he wrote, he seemed like a very nice guy. 
Everything that I was looking for, he seemed to fit into. He was Frum from birth, black hat, davened three times a day, wasn't sure about making aliyah, wore tzitzit, a velvet yarmulke, learned, etc.  It seems strange to just pick someone from theses simple checkmarks, but there is a lot of truth to them.  I knew that I wanted someone on a certain religious level, and by these little spurts of information, he seemed exactly where I was. I wrote that I was baal teshuva from a traditional home, davened every day, only were skirts, and wanted to fully cover my hair when I got married.
It seems so basic when you are looking for the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with to pick from such simple descriptions, for example, as to what material yarmulke they wear, but it is not basic at all.  When it comes down to it, I would not have dated someone who wore a knit yarmulke, and he would not have dated a girl who wore short sleeves.  Based on these questions, I decided that we sounded somewhat religiously compatible.
So, I actually emailed him first.  I told him that his profile looked interesting and that I would like to get him to know him better.  He emailed me back by JWed's message boards a few times, and then we spoke together on AIM.  It took two weeks of computer talking before we actually decided to meet.  I brought it up because he seemed nervous, and we planned a date for dinner.  (It turned out to be the night of the horrible winter storm on February 17th)  Everything went wonderfully, and when he dropped me off he told me that he didn't know how to ask me if I wanted to go out again because there was no shaddchun.  I told him to just ask, and he did.  Of course I said yes, and we continued to see each other almost daily right away. We dated for 2 months before we got engaged.  My parents flew from out of state to meet him and his parents.  I was so nervous to get engaged so young,  (I am only 20, he is 25) but It felt so right.  Although that is a normal age in the Orthodox world, I was not FFB, and so I wondered how my family and friends from back home would deal with it. 
Thank G-d, my parents really liked him, and understood my religiousness, and the aspects that sometimes correspond with it, such as Shomer Negiah, dating young, getting married fast, etc.  My parents were scared, but very supportive, and so it made life much easier.
Benyamin He asked me to marry him at La Marais in the city.
We sat at the restaurant and began to speak.
Although I knew that we were getting engaged, and I picked out the ring, I didnât know when or how.  He told me that he had thought of different ways of asking me, but he decided not to use them.  I asked him, what he wanted to say, and he started to tell me.  While he was telling me, I realized that he was really telling me and asking me at the same time! I started to cry and smile at the same time.  It was so perfect.
During the 3 months that we were engaged I finished spring semester at school, took A full summer load of classes and went through finals a week before the wedding!
He worked full time, and was very supportive of my schoolwork and planning a wedding.  By the time the wedding came around, we were so sick of taking about it and thinking about it that we just wanted it to be over with, and be in our new home together relaxing.  But of course the wedding day was amazing, and everything turned out beautifully.  I could not have asked for anything better!


Benyamin and Rochel, JWed Match #26, were married on 16th Tammuz 5763, July 16th, 2003

Chana & Natan

He asked me marry him at La Marais in NY city

When I first started using JWed, I spoke to a few different people, but nobody seemed right for me. 
When I saw Benjamin, I had recognized it from another Jewish Dating website, Jewish Cafe.  I didn't like the website at all, as there were too many non-religious people trying to contact me, so I moved onto JWed. 
I immediately remembered his picture, and something made me want to read his profile.  When I looked more closely to what he wrote, he seemed like a very nice guy. 
Everything that I was looking for, he seemed to fit into. He was Frum from birth, black hat, davened three times a day, wasn't sure about making aliyah, wore tzitzit, a velvet yarmulke, learned, etc.  It seems strange to just pick someone from theses simple checkmarks, but there is a lot of truth to them.  I knew that I wanted someone on a certain religious level, and by these little spurts of information, he seemed exactly where I was. I wrote that I was baal teshuva from a traditional home, davened every day, only were skirts, and wanted to fully cover my hair when I got married.
It seems so basic when you are looking for the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with to pick from such simple descriptions, for example, as to what material yarmulke they wear, but it is not basic at all.  When it comes down to it, I would not have dated someone who wore a knit yarmulke, and he would not have dated a girl who wore short sleeves.  Based on these questions, I decided that we sounded somewhat religiously compatible.
So, I actually emailed him first.  I told him that his profile looked interesting and that I would like to get him to know him better.  He emailed me back by JWed's message boards a few times, and then we spoke together on AIM.  It took two weeks of computer talking before we actually decided to meet.  I brought it up because he seemed nervous, and we planned a date for dinner.  (It turned out to be the night of the horrible winter storm on February 17th)  Everything went wonderfully, and when he dropped me off he told me that he didn't know how to ask me if I wanted to go out again because there was no shaddchun.  I told him to just ask, and he did.  Of course I said yes, and we continued to see each other almost daily right away. We dated for 2 months before we got engaged.  My parents flew from out of state to meet him and his parents.  I was so nervous to get engaged so young,  (I am only 20, he is 25) but It felt so right.  Although that is a normal age in the Orthodox world, I was not FFB, and so I wondered how my family and friends from back home would deal with it. 
Thank G-d, my parents really liked him, and understood my religiousness, and the aspects that sometimes correspond with it, such as Shomer Negiah, dating young, getting married fast, etc.  My parents were scared, but very supportive, and so it made life much easier.
Benyamin He asked me to marry him at La Marais in the city.
We sat at the restaurant and began to speak.
Although I knew that we were getting engaged, and I picked out the ring, I didnât know when or how.  He told me that he had thought of different ways of asking me, but he decided not to use them.  I asked him, what he wanted to say, and he started to tell me.  While he was telling me, I realized that he was really telling me and asking me at the same time! I started to cry and smile at the same time.  It was so perfect.
During the 3 months that we were engaged I finished spring semester at school, took A full summer load of classes and went through finals a week before the wedding!
He worked full time, and was very supportive of my schoolwork and planning a wedding.  By the time the wedding came around, we were so sick of taking about it and thinking about it that we just wanted it to be over with, and be in our new home together relaxing.  But of course the wedding day was amazing, and everything turned out beautifully.  I could not have asked for anything better!


Benyamin and Rochel, JWed Match #26, were married on 16th Tammuz 5763, July 16th, 2003

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